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My 3 favorite posts of the week
Posted June 4, 2015
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Hey there! How’s it going?
Yesterday was the last day of school. Like you, I’ve been mired in all the end-of-the-year events, shopping for teacher gifts, etc. Plus, I’ve been working on an exciting new project, which I will share with you soon. I didn’t want you to think I had succumbed to a new malady, so I thought I’d better check in! š
Like you, I like to read blogs. (Thanks for reading this one!) Some posts really resonate with me, and I share them on Facebook or Twitter. I thought it would be fun to share them here with you.
Here are my 3 favorite posts from this past week.
1. Saying These 8 Things To Your Kid Every Day Could Change Their Life
I came across this on Facebook, from The Breast Cancer Site. It really hit home. Recently, I have experienced a mindshift in my parenting. I’d been reciting mantras, reading affirmations, trying to motivate, inspire, uplift myself — and boost my confidence. I realized my kids needed this too. These are some great tips to help your kids feel good about themselves, gain confidence, security, and courage.
2. To Build (or Break) a Child’s Spirit
This one comes from Huffington Post Love Matters, by Rachel Macy Stafford. This post reminds us that what we say and how we say it can have a profound impact on our kids. We do get frustrated. Absolutely. No one likes to be yelled at — not even us. We aren’t bad people. Sometimes we make bad choices, and make mistakes, but that doesn’t make us bad people. We have to find ways to turn these incidents into lessons of what not to do, and how to do better. Even something as simple as spilling milk — I know, even when it’s the 100th time — can get our goat. I’ve realized that we need to be positive and use these as teaching moments. We can make they feel awful, or we can teach them that mistakes happen, and remind them they are loved, and they can do better. Sometimes easier said than done, but we all need the reminder sometimes.
Now something just for fun! š
This one’s from Scary Mommy. If you don’t subscribe to Scary Mommy, go now and do it! There’s some great stuff there, and some chuckles too. I’m sure we have all felt like this at one time or another. Enjoy!
Uggh! My Kid is Sickā¦Again!
Posted November 21, 2014
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Been away for a while dealing with my elderly parents. Iāll update you on their situation another time. So much has happened.
Letās shift back to those small beings living in our homeā¦our kids. š
Bebs is home sick today.
Again.
On Monday, I heard about this stomach bug that lasted a day, causing vomiting.
I thought, āPhew. Dodged that one!ā
Spoke to soon.
We were up allĀ Tuesday night.
Just when you think youāre done changing the bed linens for the nightā¦
You know what Iām talking about!
Bebs stayed home from school on Wednesday.
Uggh!Ā I had things to do!
Iāve got a very full schedule, and not including pick up/drop off, I have about 5 hours, 5 days a week without kids to accomplish it.
Iām singing your song, yes?
Youāre worried, feel awful for your sick child, and you tend to him/her.
But what about the other stuff?
I began complaining about all the things that wouldnāt get done that day.
You too?
Well,Ā there’s my trip to the gym.
I have health issues, and this helps me keep those in check, not to mention it curbs stress, improves my mood, and gives me a sense of āYeah! I did this just for me!ā
I also use that time to read.
Scratch that from the list.
Then thereās the grocery shopping, and errands.
Oh yeah, I was planning to write.
And there is, well, that part-time job.
The one that helps me to celebrate my Greek heritage and culture every day; keeps me involved in the community; gets me published regularly; has been responsible for great learning; offered me the opportunity to meet some really great people (including a mentor!); and, well, Iāve garnered some fans along the way, and their praise and encouragement feeds my ego, and eases my writerās doubt. Itās more than a job to me.
Then thereās volunteering. These days, we must be involved in our kidsā schools.
We have to know whoās in the schools, what theyāre doing, and well, if we want activities for our kids, we have to be there to organize and work them ā you know. We must also be the teachersā partners in our kidsā education.
My girls go to two different schools. And Boo attends Greek school on Saturdays.
Thatās three schools/PTAs requesting my time.
And I serve on a school board.
You know those days when you have to call and cancel out on something because your child is sick, and it just happens to be the day that everyone else is canceling for the same reason? Yes. We feel guilty when that happens.
Iām doing a lot of things, but theyāre all very important to me and I make the time for them.
Except on days when I have a sick child at home.
NOW WHAT?
Most of the to-do list doesnāt get done, and it makes me stressed, and Iāve lost my sense of accomplishment for the day.
Those little things like checking off parts of your to-do list go a long way.
I started to complain, and then I stopped myself.
Time to re-work it.
What could I accomplish with my child home?
Is there anything on tomorrowās list that I could do at home, and shift some of the other stuff to tomorrow?
As my daughter slept, I took the opportunity to write.
I made some phone calls, did some work.
CHECK. CHECK. CHECK.
Then I switched to some household tasks.
– Planned dinners, made the shopping list.
— Cleaned out a cabinet, then started to file some papers.
Those were much lower on the list, but Iām here, canāt go out, so might as well.
I couldnāt get to the store that day, so I had to plan something else for dinner with what we had.
No gym.
–Ā Watched what and how much I ate that day.
–Ā Since I was stuck in the house, I made a few more trips up and down the stairs for good measure.
I moved my āoutsideā tasks to the next day.
When Thursday rolled around, I got up a little earlier.
– I took care of my writerly tasks before the family woke up.
– I took the kids to school, got that workout in right away ā and did a little extra.
– Work
–Ā Volunteered at Booās school
– Attacked those errands that I couldnāt do
Then it was time for pick up.
I actually thought I had caught up from the sick day, and was ready to attack today.
GUESS AGAIN!
I got up at 5 (These areĀ Golden Hours. I do whatever I want!). Wrote. Answered emails.
Then it was time to get ready for school.
Boo went to school.
Bebs didn’t feel well. Slight fever, lethargic.
Staying homeā¦again.
As I began stressing about all the things Iād have to give up today, I stopped.
Time to re-work the schedule…again!
– Fortunately, I checked several things off the list this am.
– Gym? Nope. Extended workout on Monday.
– Lunch with a friend? Raincheck.
– Grocery shopping? Will have to wait until the evening.
That frees up some time.
Whatās on tomorrowās list?
Oh yes.
Laundry. Cleaning.
Let’s go.
Iāll be so happy tomorrow. Then I can just play!
As winter approaches, weāre all going to have those days when our kids have to stay home from school, and it throws off our day(s).
Try to remember that itās OK to re-work your schedule.
This is a great reminder to not put things off, because you donāt know what the rest of today ā or tomorrow ā will bring.
Itās a reminder to prioritize.
Remember that saying, āMan makes plans and God laughs?ā
Itās so true.
Life is unpredictable.
We have enough stress. Donāt add to it.
Some ideas:
– Make sure you leave some flexibility in your day.
– Schedule the mostĀ important tasks early in the day so you’re sure to accomplish them.
– Donāt put offĀ goingĀ to theĀ gym until tomorrow, because who knows what the day will bring, and why feel awful that you let yourself down?
– Make that trip to the grocery store today, while you can.
– Don’t leave all the errands for one day a week. Do these throughout the week, when time presents itself.
Check these off the list!
Take a moment to remind yourself that you arenāt perfect, you are a mom (or a dad), and life is unpredictable.
You know what?
Youāre a superhero already.
Know why?
Cause you are MOM. Or DAD.
Plain and simple.
Give yourself a break.
Donāt stress.
Now, back to my housecleaning.