October 15 is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day
Posted October 13, 2012on:
This October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.
This is a day for people to commemorate their lost little ones.
I lost mine in the early part of my pregnancy, but it hurts tremendously, nonetheless.
A loss at any stage of the game is life-altering.
I cannot fathom the grief experienced by women who have progressed far into their pregnancies.
Or the incredible sense of loss felt by women who’s babies were born sleeping.
Or who those who had a a child who lived for only a short while, and left this world way too soon.
And let’s not forget the dads–and other family members. They grieve too.
They feel the loss in different ways, but are still affected.
But it must be acknowledged and worked through.
My heart breaks thinking about this.
It’s an earth-shattering experience.
And one often suffered in silence.
Why don’t people discuss pregnancy and infant loss?
Why do we grieve undercover?
According to iamtheface.org, 1 in 4 women will experience the loss of a baby at sometime in their lives.
That’s a staggering statistic.
So why are we still not talking about this?
Many people you know have experienced a miscarriage.
When I began speaking about my experience, I received notes from people telling me they too, have had a miscarriage–or two or three.
Why did I not know?
Do we feel ashamed?
We should not.
We’ve all heard people say, Just get over it.”
The truth is, you can’t.
You must grieve your loss.
Mothers fall in love with their babies from the very beginning.
Sometimes even before the pregnancy is confirmed.
The very thought of this new life growing inside us inspires great love, dreams of little tiny feet.
When that’s ripped away, it’s something that rocks you to the core.
We often blame ourselves when there is no blame to be given.
Many women do not properly grieve their loss.
And it haunts them throughout their lives.
We must grieve this loss.
We must get in a good place with it, so we can truly move on.
This is one of those things that is gone, but not forgotten.
You learn to live with it, and you find a way to move forward.
You may commemorate your little angel on your due date, the date of loss, even their birthday.
This October 15 at 7:00 pm, join women and their loved ones around the world, who will light candles in honor of their lost little ones.
Participate in this Wave of Light.
Light a candle.
Cry if you need to.
Say a prayer.
Imagine your little angel in Heaven.
Do whatever works for you.
If you know someone who has been through this, give them a giant hug.
Acknowledge their grief.
Moms are incredible beings.
Moms who have endured this life-altering loss, I salute you.
You are stronger than you even know.
Sending big hugs your way.
Now, imagine our little angels playing together in Heaven.
Now that’s a beautiful image.